November, 2013

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How to Spot and Overcome Manipulation

Leadership Freak

'“There is perhaps nothing more dangerous than a bad person with good people skills.” Bob Burg in Adversaries to Allies. Manipulators are skillful persuaders. Leaders become manipulators when self-serving goals outweigh shared goals. Self-serving goals require manipulation, coercion, deception, and pressure tactics. Shared goals, on the other hand, pull everyone forward.

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A Surprising Gratitude List for Leaders

Kevin Eikenberry

'If you will be celebrating Thanksgiving this week, there will be a moment when you look around the room, or look around the table, and the list of things you are thankful will be obvious and apparent. The food, the family and friends around you, and perhaps the football on the TV may all make […].

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Seven Positive Responses to Negative Feedback

Leadership Freak

'Image source Negative feedback isn’t the issue. You are. How you respond to correction, criticism, and negative feedback tells me who you are. It’s even more telling when it comes from someone of lower status. Negative responses: “It’s your fault too.” Making it personal. Standing aloof Minimizing. Arguing. Feeling attacked. Finger pointing. Excuse making.

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20 Ways to Give Negative Feedback

Leadership Freak

'Growth always hurts. But, stagnation is death. Growth requires feedback. Successful leaders are great at giving feedback. Good intentions don’t compensate for poor execution when it comes to negative feedback. Done well, negative feedback is a gift. Done poorly, it devalues, demotivates, and discourages. Benefit: Successful feedback is turning on the lights.

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SME Relationships: Proven Solutions for Seamless Collaboration and Success

Speaker: Tim Buteyn, President of ThinkingKap Learning Solutions

💢 Do you find yourself stuck in never-ending review cycles? Are you wondering if your Subject Matter Expert actually got that last review request? Are you having trouble trying to decipher impractical or conflicting feedback? 💢 If any of these scenarios sounds familiar, you may benefit from a crash course on managing SME relationships!

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The Surprising Secret to Finding Mentors

Leadership Freak

'The dark side of leadership is worse when you feel alone. Leaders face frustration, disappointment, confusion, doubt, stress, fear, and more. Hopelessness defeats leaders unless they replenish strength and find direction. Hope is a function of relationship. Leaders with mentors go further. Mentors: Elevate your game. Believe in your potential and talent.

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20 Things to do When the Boss is Wrong

Leadership Freak

'You have an obligation to yourself, your boss, and your organization to speak up when you disagree. One of the best ways to earn respect is advocating for your ideas with integrity, courtesy, and intelligence. Strong organizations have courageous leaders. Weakness gives in too soon. Arrogance hangs on too long. Foolishness speaks before thinking. When […].

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How to Defeat the Dangers of Disrespect

Leadership Freak

'Foolish leaders disrespect intentionally. But, for many, disrespect is accidental. Disrespectful leaders demoralize the team. You’re disrespectful when you: Answer for others in meetings. Help when help isn’t needed. Over-helpfulness suggests others aren’t capable. Make choices without input from those impacted. Unilateral decisiveness feels like a putdown to those on the receiving end of your […].

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The Five Freedoms of Gratitude

Leadership Freak

'Ingratitude is weak, small, ugly, arrogant, and contagious. Unthankful leaders repel healthy followers and attract the ungrateful. “Ingratitude is the essence of vileness.” Immanuel Kant Companions of ingratitude: Fear. Entitlement. Envy. Blame. Anger. Freedom: Gratitude sets you free. Ingratitude is bondage to offenses, disappointments, and dissatisfaction. 5 Freedoms: Inclusion.

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Seven Ways to Defeat Hopelessness

Leadership Freak

'Hope is a way of thinking when things are uncertain. Leadership requires boldness in the face of uncertainty. Boldness requires hope. Hope enables action. Hope believes things can change. Leaders with hope rise to challenges. Leaders without hope run. Hope gets more done than discouragement or despair. Hope faces uncertainty with reasoned confidence.

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Getting the Most From Anger

Leadership Freak

'Our discomfort with anger speaks to it’s power. But, those who don’t get angry don’t care. Anger is uncomfortable because it ruins lives. “Frustration” is more comfortable. “I’m not angry,” we say, “I’m just frustrated.” Anger is passion. Anger is a gift. “Sometimes, you have to get angry to get things done.” Ang Lee The […].

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Change Management 101: A Practical 3 Part Guide

Implementing new tools or business processes in your organization? Lemon Learning put together a practical 3 part guide to prevent the pitfalls of change management. Drive a successful change management project from diagnosis through to measurement.

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Five Ways to Turn Adversaries into Allies

Leadership Freak

'Forget about strolling through life and ending with extraordinary impact. Leadership is never an accident. Influence is intentional and earned. Leaders intentionally have point B in mind. Bob Burg’s new book, Adversaries into Allies, explains how leaders earn and ethically leverage influence in order to arrive at point B. #1. Control your emotions.

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Books the “Freaks” are Reading

Leadership Freak

'“Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.” Harry S. Truman Books Leadership “Freaks” are reading: How Full is Your Bucket by Tom Rath & Donald Clifton Boundaries for Leaders by Dr. Henry Cloud You Already Know How to Be Great by Alan Fine Building a Magnetic Culture by Kevin Sheridan The Heart […].

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How to Fulfill Your Dreams

Leadership Freak

'Nothing’s more painful than unfulfilled dreams. Dreams slip away as time passes. Defeated dreamers roll over in bed one morning and say, “What’s the use. It’ll never happen.” But… Leaders are dreamers and deadlines turn dreams into reality. Dreams without deadlines destroy people. Wishful thinkers choose talk over action. When someone tells you they have a […].

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Overcoming the 10 Dangers of Talent

Leadership Freak

'The 10 Dangers of being Talented: Relying on talent rather than hard work. Too much winging it. Assuming what’s easy for you is easy for others. Being a threat to bosses. Unwillingness to change or grow. Alienating others. Feeling entitled. Being pigeon holed. Feeling paralyzed by too many options. Boredom. Arrogance. Visit The Leadership Freak […].

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Is Training the Right Solution?

Speaker: Tim Buteyn

Let's set the scene: you’ve identified a critical performance gap in your organization and need to close that gap. A colleague suggests training, but you suspect there’s something going on that training can’t address. How can you determine if training is the right solution before you commit your budget and resources to a new training program? In this webinar, you will learn how to determine if training is the right solution using the Behavior Engineering Model.

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Risk Going Too Far

Leadership Freak

'Success is an anchor. You don’t move ahead for fear of losing what you have. It’s easy to take risks when you don’t have anything to lose. Fear of taking risks destroys dreams. “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” T. S. Eliot Going too far is […].

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In the Midst of a Great Relationship

Leadership Freak

'Organizations filled with people who need to be #1 are paralyzed by sideways energy. Everyone pulls for their own way rather than pulling together. We are so in love with being #1 that we minimize being #2. But, great organizations are filled with great followers. Becoming number two: “Losing an election was perhaps the most […].

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What Makes Leaders Matter More

Leadership Freak

'Leaders don’t matter until they do what matters. Intrinsic human worth and the value of a leader are separate issues. You don’t matter when you do what doesn’t matter. Doing what matters: The people who ultimately know what matters are the people you serve, customers. The more you please customers the more you matter. Without […].

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Jesus was a Follower

Leadership Freak

'Not all leaders can lead like Gandhi, Lincoln, Churchill, or Jesus. Surprisingly, Jesus described himself as a follower. He said things like: I do not seek my own will but the will of the Father. I have not spoken of my own authority. Leaders follow: You can’t lead if you don’t follow. Authority is derived from […].

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Revitalizing Dry Content: A Lesson in Engagement

Speaker: Tim Buteyn, President of ThinkingKap Learning Solutions

We’ve all been there. You’ve been given a pile of dry content and asked to create a compelling eLearning course. You’re determined to create something more engaging than the same old course that learners quickly click through, but how do you take this “boring” content and create something relevant and engaging? Many instructional designers will say, “Boring in means boring out.

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Something Better than Results

Leadership Freak

'Stop focusing on results. I just listened to one of the most highly regarded football coaches in the United States say, “Don’t worry about winning.” Freaky! Here’s the message I took: Forget about long-term goals. Concentrate on meaningful, energetic work, now. Nick Saban, coach of Alabama’s Crimson Tide, says, “Don’t worry about winning, just focus […].

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I Nearly Died

Leadership Freak

'Two years ago today I collided with a tree and nearly died. I don’t remember much about the accident. But, a day hasn’t gone by that I haven’t remembered that life is frail. I remember the touch of people standing by my bed. Two college students built a wheel chair ramp. Friends brought food. My […].

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How to Rise Above Gift Exchanges at Work

Leadership Freak

'Obligatory gifts aren’t gifts. Generosity requires freedom. Gift giving was magic when our children were young. Some years money was tight and we added homemade gifts to store-bought. During prosperous years we over did it. Generosity delights everyone. However… Avoid giving gifts at work. If your office doesn’t do it, don’t start. If you currently give gifts […].

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How to Succeed with a Lousy Boss

Leadership Freak

'I receive emails and questions after presentations like, “How can I manage up, I have a lousy boss?” Jimmy Collins, retired president of Chick-fil-A and author of, Creative Followership, doesn’t wait for people to ask him about lousy bosses. He asks them. My conversation with Jimmy rocked my world. He said things like: “Seeking Leadership roles […].

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Brain Fog HQ: Memory Enhancement Techniques for Professional Development

Speaker: Chester Santos – Author, International Keynote Speaker, Executive Coach, Corporate Trainer, Memory Expert, U.S. Memory Champion

In October, scientists discovered that 75% of patients who experienced brain fog had a lower quality of life at work than those who did not. At best, brain fog makes you slower and less efficient. At worst, your performance and cognitive functions are impaired, resulting in memory, management, and task completion problems. In this entertaining and interactive presentation, Chester Santos, "The International Man of Memory," will assist you in developing life-changing skills that will greatly enha

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Cowards Can’t Lead: Secrets to Fueling Courage

Leadership Freak

'Image source Cowards can’t lead. Inaction, pain, and failure follow cowardly leaders. Cowardly leaders: Won’t decide. Delay, posture, and blame. Reject responsibility. The most surprising aspect of leadership is the courage it takes. When I began, I thought leading was about excitement. Today, years later, it’s about courage. Input from Facebook, “Leaders need courage when […].

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Describing Essential Behaviors

Leadership Freak

'You can’t pursue what you can’t describe. If it can be achieved, it can be seen. If it can be seen, it can be described. If can be described, it can be measured. Description enables: Instruction. Focus. Progress. Measurement. Description enables leadership. If you can’t describe it, you can’t lead toward it. Outcomes or behaviors: […].

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Overcoming the Distraction Addiction

Kevin Eikenberry

'There are lots of things people become addicted to. I believe one of the most prevalent isn’t ever mentioned in the same breath with the addictions you thought of as you were reading the first sentence. Under-recognized, unspoken and without a support group, perhaps the biggest addiction that business people have is distractions. For example, […].

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Speed with Collaboration and Standards

Leadership Freak

'Messy collaboration can create speed. Mike Leavitt learned collaboration is often the best way to solve messy problems that involve large groups of people. Mike is the three time Governor of Utah and served on the Cabinet of President George W. Bush as Secretary of Health and Human Services and administrator of the Environmental Protection […].

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What’s Missing in Project Management Training

Kevin Eikenberry

'The truth is there is probably as much training available on project management as there is on any leadership topic or skill I could ever write about here. Don’t believe me? Google it. There is plenty of training available, plenty of experience with it, plenty of knowledge available. Of course, that doesn’t guarantee that we […].

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The Source of Your Fatigue

Kevin Eikenberry

'Seldom does a day pass without someone telling me they are tired, exhausted, or feel like they need a vacation. Fatigue seems pervasive, a malady that is faced by some at least occasionally, and by many people as a nearly constant state of being. One solution might be to get more sleep, but today, I […].

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Two Keys to Leadership Confidence

Kevin Eikenberry

'Everyone is about to move from the reception to the big business dinner. You are walking with some friends and colleagues, following the crowd as you pass the restrooms. Just ahead of you is one of the executives walking as confidently as they normally do, because they can’t see what you see – that they […].

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Have a Big Project? Start Here

Kevin Eikenberry

'There is much written about (and worth learning about) project planning and goal achievement. You can learn many strategies and approaches to help your projects be successful and your goals be reached. Seldom is today’s starting point discussed. Yet rightly, this starting point will make all of the tactics, tools, and approaches work better. In […].

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Using The Big Ears Approach to Listen Better Naturally!

Kevin Eikenberry

'Everyone has heard it – the old saying we have two ears and one mouth, and we should use them in that proportion. We’ve heard it, but we seldom take action on the idea. It isn’t really because we don’t know how to listen or even that we don’t understand the value […].

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How to Create Your Future

Kevin Eikenberry

'Our perceptions are so powerful that they shape the world around us in profound ways. Such is the point of today’s quotation. I hope it makes you think (a lot) about the ramifications of this truth in your life. Questions to Ponder - Am I thinking about possibility? - If not, what am I thinking […].

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