3 Leadership Lessons from Reality TV
I know reality TV is more about TV than reality, but sometimes I cry when I watch American Idol. It’s a show where undiscovered singers audition in front of celebrities from the music industry.
Leaders who love results but ignore the beauty of aspiration exploit people.
What you see reflects what’s in your heart.
Wisdom sees aspiration where others see weakness.
3 lessons from reality TV:
Three things make me cry when I watch American Idol.
- Humble aspiration.
- Truth with kindness.
- Wise advice.
#1. Respect humble aspiration.
Fools scoff but wisdom cheers when someone puts feet to aspiration.
Arrogant aspiration feels entitled and misunderstood. You can’t help know-it-alls. But humble aspiration deserves a response richer than indifference.
I love seeing undiscovered singers wonder if they’re talented enough to make it after giving their best. Humble aspiration is hungry and open.
Jump up and down in the presence of humble aspiration.
Aspiration apart from action congeals into disappointment.
#2. Give truth with kindness.
Luke Bryan told one contestant on American Idol, “That was a great performance, but I have a big ole feeling that it’s not your best performance to come.”
What happens when you remove, “That was a great performance,” from Luke’s statement?
Kindness makes hard truth sing.
Cold-blooded truth is rigid, uncaring, and brittle.
Hard truth provokes defensiveness and discouragement.
Kind truth opens hearts.
#3. Share wise advice:
Humble aspiration seeks feedback and enjoys advice.
Occasionally, a celebrity judge says, “Your rhythm is off. Snap your fingers while you sing.” Everything changes.
Sometimes they ask contestants to sing something else. The second song seems to come from a different person.
Don’t pressure people to become more like you.
Wise advice enables people to discover their own talent.
What leadership lessons might you offer from Reality TV shows?
Most of the people who do well on those kind of shows have at least a degree of talent, a capacity for hard work and usually a good story.
The heats stages of those shows reveal how many people expect to succeed in the total absence of any of the above, and that the leadership lesson is that they were let down by people who wouldn’t tell them they don’t.
Thanks Mitch. I often hear something like this on American Idol, “This show isn’t for you.” I suppose there’s nothing wrong with trying. But your comment reminds me that we are better off pouring our energy into something we are good at. It’s a gift when someone tells you that you didn’t do well – especially if you think you did.
“Thank you” in the simplest of forms! I am grateful for your posts
And thank you for the encouraging word.
Why would aspiration be a weakness? Is it wrong to want to do something more or be something more than what you are today? I think that the train of thought you laid out here today makes for some deep conversation and thinking for someone that wants to change themselves for the better, Encouragement and advice go a long way in making that happen and if someone is aspirational enough, they can see those aspirations come to life.
Some of these shows are great lessons in how to gracefully and respectfully give harsh feedback or let people down e.g. Masterchef here in Oz. I like what you’ve done here Dan in finding parallels outside the office environment.